Is this 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After or a presidential debate? Mohamed is asked some pretty philosophical questions about American immigration. But first, he must hang out with his friend from Walmart and discuss intimate details of his marriage, separation, and divorce/annulment.
According to Mo, Danielle tried to LOCK HIM IN THE BEDROOM. She also physically blocks the door by sitting in front of it when Mo wants to leave. This is some legit domestic violence if these allegations are true.
So Mohamed is back in Ohio to talk Danielle out of filing for annulment, which would send him back to Tunisia and into filing for divorce, which would mean Mo could stay in “the States.” Danielle is in Ohio to get her hair flat-ironed and to use complex immigration law to manipulate a 28-year old immigrant into staying married to her.
Once again, Danielle’s daughters are the only ones who know what is really going on. How exactly did that happen. As the fiance of a guy with kids, I constantly read all of these articles about how to help children become wonderful, productive, successful and kind adults. There are all sorts of steps to take, activities to do, specific ways to explain complex issues. We buy organic foods and a variety of appropriate, award-winning children’s books. Did Danielle do any of that? Obviously not. How did her daughters emerge so self-sufficient and rational?
Anyway, Danielle dolls herself up in her best hoodie and sneakers to meet Mohamed at some pizza place with WAY too many spectators. Danielle is hoping for a romantic reunion but it quickly turns sideways. Mrs. Jbali has some tough questions to ask but she asks them while giggling. Mohamed makes it clear that he would like a divorce and would like to stay in the United States. It is at this point that Danielle turns. Her voice is no longer timid. Her body manages to lunge across the table. I think this is the Danielle that tries to lock people in rooms.
Here’s where Mohamed gets topical. He explains to Danielle – rather clearly – that America is not “her” country and she can’t just decide who gets to stay. I mean, if it were up to Danielle, Ricky Martin would be President. For her part, Danielle – rather clearly – points out that Mohamed got into America in the first place because she vouched for him. Folks, this is some complex shit on 9DFHEA. For the first time in history, the Jbalis are both making good points.
Mohamed goes on to say that Danielle lives a miserable life and doesn’t know any better. She thinks that her life is just the way life is. Mo knows life is definitely supposed to be better. Danielle can’t take it anymore and storms off. Cue credits.
This relationship is over. Seeking revenge or trying to draw it out will backfire on Danielle. It always, always does. There are like, a million Buddha quotes about this very thing. “You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.” “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Buddha could go on. Anyway, Danielle needs to let go and let God but she is so driven to drag this out and stay in this Mohamed hurricane that she’s refusing to answer the call of reality. Get a divorce, Danielle. Who cares where Mohamed lives. He is not your husband anymore. It’s okay, you are okay, it will all be okay.
And can we please discuss Brett’s stepdad, Smitty? Brett and Daya have been married for some time. The ink is dry. The marriage is legal. There’s nothing one can do about it, so we might as well get along and be cool, right? Nope, not Smitty. This is exactly the type of guy ruins the stereotype of step-parents for the rest of us (myself included.) Smitty still needs to harp on Brett for marrying his internet girlfriend from the Philippines, who is sitting right in front of them, married. Smitty wears his sunglasses backwards on his head and tells Brett’s mom what to think.
Why is it so hard for these people to say, “Wow, what a great new house! Sure, you paid a little extra for it, but it’ll all work out. Great investment! Great house! Daya, what are YOU up to? Is my son treating you right? We bought you this house-warming gift. You both are treasures and we love you unconditionally.” Brett’s shitty parents can think whatever they want. But when they are with Brett and Daya, they need to suck it up and be supportive. This is what family does. Family gets to say, “Are you sure you want to marry this person, I have concerns” but we get to say it once. After that: we support and smile.
After that disaster of a dinner, Brett’s mom forces herself to remain under the impression that it was Daya was was miserable. No, dumbass. You are making your son miserable. You are creating pain for your son. And you are providing him with zero options to win your support because all of the things you continue to whine about are done deals. As my fiancé would say, “That ship has sailed.”
Brett and Daya, SND supports you!
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